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6 Comments to “Q&A: What is proper vow renewal etiquette?”

1. just wondering Says:
   11 de June, 2011 at 3:40 am

   Planning a fake wedding is very unnecessary and many people would rather not attend.

   The best way to go is to find a pretty, scenic, location or somewhere that is special to the two of you and rent some nice chairs. Don’t wear an actual wedding dress and tux, a nice semi-formal dress and suit would be better. Don’t decorate, let nature do it. Do your new vows and have a party afterwords. Not a reception, a celebration. Just fun, food, and friends

2. Luv2Answer Says:
   11 de June, 2011 at 4:10 am

   I agree with the first post. Have a big 10 year anniversary party instead.

3. nova_queen_28 Says:
   11 de June, 2011 at 5:05 am

   I don’t know that there is any formal etiquette on it, but I would suggest you do not go for the wedding “do over” look with bridesmaids & poofy white dress.

   You can renew your vows – in a church even -, invite guests, have a dinner and cake cutting. But keep it understated.

   I think the best thing you can do is call it your 10th Anniversary Vow Renewal & Reception.

4. Blunt Says:
   11 de June, 2011 at 5:32 am

   Vow renewal etiquette.

   A vow renewal is a vow renewal, not another wedding. It can include a religious service if you wish, along with a pretty wedding gown.

   Things to avid on vow renewals are:

   -Cathedral lenght/puffy/princessy wedding gowns. A simple gown will do. Destination wedding styles are very appropriate for that occasion

   -No veil over your face as you are already married and have children.

   -Definitely avoid a white gown. Ivory, eggshell and off-white are perfect for a vow renewal.

   -No bridesmaid or groomsmen. You can have a witness, a best man or maid of honor if you wish, but no need for several clone bridesmaids.

   -ABSOLUTELY NO registries.

   -Absolutely NO showers. If friends insist on throwing you one, make it a lingerie one or better still, a charity tea or a simple gift less luncheon.

   -Absolutely NO bachelorette parties or bachelor parties for obvious reasons.

   Things to have at your vow renewal:

   -Include your children in your ceremony if you wish
   -Hire a great photographer for formal pictures
   -Have a modest bouquet
   -Have a great fancy cake
   -Enjoy your party in the company of family and friends.

   One last thing, do not expect any gifts. Some people will show up with gifts anyway, but generally a vow renewal should not be gifting congratulations.

   Good luck and congratulations!!!

5. nettababii Says:
   11 de June, 2011 at 5:45 am

   you can email me at lanetta.g@gmail.com and I will gladly help you im a wedding planner i can give you ideas

6. iloveweddings Says:
   11 de June, 2011 at 6:43 am

   Hi and congratulations!

   YES, most definitely plan a vow renewal ceremony, but NOT a wedding. Sorry, the wedding you had was a real wedding even though you were young and only had a few family/friends in attendance.

   Have a vow renewal celebration party and keep it to that. There should be no bridesmaids, flower girls, etc. as you are not a bride. Likewise, for your husband…..no groomsmen, etc. as he is not a groom.

   Yes, there is etiquette, but many of the brides on here will tell you to go right ahead and plan a “second wedding.” To be honest, it is not appropriate.

   Use Google and research vow renewals. You can keep it low-key, or do something in a church. Then have a party afterwards, but keep it non-wedding-ish (i.e, no wedding dress, etc.)

   But….your life…your choice.

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